So you have to decide: Is all the fuss and bother worth it to you? One former colleague, Megan, describes her fling thus:"He'd send me long looks in the hall or comment under his breath to me in passing.
"If the person is a coworker, are you prepared to have them as an ex-lover, working on projects, sitting in meetings? Pretty soon, everybody knew something was going on even if they weren't sure exactly what.
That having been said, at a time when so many of us are holding on for dear life to the jobs we have, or desperately searching for another one, it's not unlikely that you're putting in a little extra time on the job, and regretting how little time you have to further develop and explore your personal life. What will you do if your company's policy forbids inter-office relationships?
But what if that special someone is in the cubicle kitty-corner to yours? The one you run into at the instant coffee machine at least twice a day? As a friend's colleague Eileen shares, "One of the first points of conversation we had was what if we broke up. We wanted to make sure that we remained professional and cordial."Being on the same page about how you'll handle certain key situations — even if they don't actually occur — will, in the meantime, help you and the relationship feel more safe, stable, and secure.
It's obviously worse if you're interested in someone with whom you work on a daily or regular basis.
But even if they are in a separate department or on a different floor, making sure you're not bringing your relationship with you to work each day adds even more stress. Excelle: 5 Ways To Conquer Self Doubt The Excitement Factor And of course office relationships have a definite positive side: The excitement factor.
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And don't forget the mating ground that is the office party. ) serious, be open with each other about the range of what-ifs.
As my friend Julie learned, "I've hooked up with a coworker after a particularly … "festive" office party, but nothing really came of it. I don't regret anything, but, to be fair, I don't really remember much either." Oops! But more likely than not (read: there are exceptions, and I've witnessed them! Handling the Inevitable Whether we know better and want to do it anyway, can't deny the palpable attraction, or both, office relationships happen. So if you have an eye on someone, are already involved, or are debating ending an affair with a coworker that just isn't working for you, here are a few things to remember when dealing with the good, the bad, and the ugly.1. I know this isn't an easy conversation (especially when you're floating on air in the honeymoon stage), but trust me — it's one you need to have. What will you do if someone finds out when they're not supposed to know, or before you are really ready to share?
Seeing him every single day (boy, did I hate working in an open office then) reminded me over and over again about how much I missed him and how mad I was that he wasn't interested.